Being a phone sex operator is sex work, but for some reason, it’s not respected by others as such. There’s been a major cultural change and sex work is starting to be recognized as genuine work and business. It’s much less shameful in the modern world. This is absolutely a good thing, except phone sex doesn’t seem to get the same treatment.
I don’t know where the attitude started, perhaps it’s because phone sex is legal sex work? But so is camming and stripping. I really don’t know. But I know I’ve tried to mingle with other sex workers who have blatantly disregarded me because I chose to do phone sex.
The fact is; my business is a legit business. I’m a corporation and I have a merchant account to accept credit card payments by phone. I keep detailed paperwork and I pay taxes quarterly. I pay for ads, do marketing, research, and invest money in the business.
Phone sex operators are sex workers because we have to be very knowledgeable about sex, fetishes, and fantasies and even understand human psychology. Of course, we must also be good conversationalists.
As far as sex work goes most phone sex operators are vilified as fat and frumpy housewives with rollers in their hair doing phone calls while washing dishes. It’s a stereotype that I detest, and I assure you it’s not real. I only wish I could do housework while I did calls… but then I wouldn’t be able to give my client my full attention. It’s completely impossible.
As a phone sex operator, I have to think fast on my feet and be flexible enough to adjust to many different personality types. I speak to men from many walks of life, so I better know how to talk to men. Many men have very different interests in sex and view it completely differently than women. I have to be able to understand that on a very deep level because I can only rely upon my voice and telephone interaction. I can’t SEE the guy and I can only “listen”. It only means I have to make smart choices and use good judgment in a different way.
I would never invalidate any other form of sex work because I do believe it’s work. Much of it is physical work while mine is all mental work. I have to think and be mentally creative on each and every call I do.
I’m not sure that phone sex operators really get the credit they deserve as sex workers. Escorts and even prostitutes are being recognized as doing a very valid form of work, and yet because I don’t use my body in my profession as much as I use my voice I have felt disregarded. This has come from many genders.
I never try to speak for other people but I can assure you that any phone sex operator out there who is reading this completely agrees with me. We work damn hard. And we have to hustle with marketing and promotion on a daily basis exactly the same way any other sex worker does. Our approach to the adult industry is just different.
I love what I do and have found it to give me a lot of confidence. I’m not afraid to speak my mind and I’m such a good conversationalist because of the range of topics I can discuss… that I’m very popular at parties. I’ve experienced a lot of “good” things because of my work.
Stereotyping phone sex operators as fat and frumpy housewives is really very 1980s thinking. With modern technology, things have really changed. Yet. I still prefer phone sex over doing cam work, for instance. I tried it a few times but lost interest quickly because I felt like a dancing monkey. That’s not to say that cam girls are any less than me or anyone else, performing on cam just isn’t for me. I felt weird, not because I was naked, but because I was performing a lot more. I feel more natural and myself on the phone and in a conversation. I’m also very concerned about my image being used without my permission and maybe a little too paranoid about it.
So I guess I should just dub today “hug a sex worker day”. Just don’t forget to verbally hug a phone sex girl because she works just as hard for her money as all sex workers do.
